Tales from the Dovecote – the time of your life

Imagine for a moment a young man, eighteen years old, intelligent, about to take his A levels. His teachers predict great results. He’s physically fit, likes lifting weights and loves playing rugby. The world is at his feet – he has wonderful prospects and fantastic dreams for the future. BANG! In an instant all this changes when he is involved in a motorcycle accident. He is pronounced dead 3 times and yet survives to tell the tale. But his life will never be the same again.

The past that he had – and the future that he imagined – no longer exist.

I met that man a recently. It’s twenty or so years since that accident. To look at him you wouldn’t know about that dramatic event all those years ago but speaking to him, it’s had a profound effect on his outlook on life. It’s had a big impact on me too.

So, was that event a blessing in disguise or a curse? The answer is, of course, that it depends what you learn from it.

Sometimes it takes a short, sharp, shock to put things into perspective and appreciate what we’ve got.

Most people I talk to lately have the mindset of doom and gloom. If I’m honest, I’ve been guilty of that too.

The problem is that whatever we believe to be true, we act as if it’s true. And, what’s more, we only look for the evidence that supports that point of view because we have to make ourselves right. Doom and gloom then becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

The truth is that life is uncertain. The saying that ‘tomorrow never comes’ is also true – but we need to have hope for the future and we need to make the most of now.

It seems that it’s always the things you don’t do that you regret. So, what do you want to do? What do you want to say to others? What’s really stopping you?

Remember – this is the time of your life.

One Response

  1. I couldn’t agree more with this. A lovely piece and I too have met similar people. I subscribe to the adage that we should live every day as if it were our last. Simon M-R

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